Why is it that we value people a lot more after they have died? I wonder why do we realise their importance only after they are gone, and not when they were around? Why is it that we regret not having spent quality time or more time with them? Or being ‘nicer’ or kinder to them when they lived.
I guess it’s human nature to take each other for granted. Especially our loved ones. We all get so caught in the mad hustle bustle of life, that even though we wish to give these precious people time when they are alive, we are unable to. We keep postponing that visit, or the feelings of love and gratitude for “tomorrow”.
THAT THING ABOUT LIFE:
The other day, a friend who I met after a long time, looked sad and drawn out. She had lost a dear family friend’s father the same morning. She looked sad, as she was unable to meet or see him before his sudden demise. In her heart she carried innumerable fond memories of spending her growing up years with the family, or watching television on New Years eve at their home,
When I remember my mother, I wish I had made more efforts to learn her delicious recipes. And not take her cooking for granted. Though I’m glad, that I always spent ample time with her, and in her last years; also as a care giver on many occasions. But yes, I miss her guardian angel like presence in my life.
Recently two friends told me, always ask your mother to watch over you and your dear ones, in your every day prayers; and she will. Sometime back this concept was a bit vague in my head; but that day I truly understood its meaning. After all she always watched over us, looking out for us like a fierce lioness protecting her cubs. And we know she will continue to.
Do you sometimes wish that you spent more time with those who have crossed over? That you had been more sensitive to their presence? That you made that little time amidst your busy schedules, to be with them? Or been a lot more compassionate to their needs?
With that thought in my mind, all I can say is let’s start treasuring all the people in our lives, however small or big their contribution maybe. Let’s not allow our past grudges cloud our being. Let’s all start on a cleaner slate of loving a little more, living in the moment, and forgiving easily.
Life is too short to be wasted not being present with our loved ones. (yes, put that phone or gadget aside, when you are with them)
Would love to hear your thoughts on this.