Can we let Sridevi RIP. Please, please!! #MondayMusings

Can we let Sridevi RIP. Please, please!! #MondayMusings

It was a lazy Sunday. Lazy, as I skipped my cycling plans; an activity that gives my day a very lively kick-start. But then I was also happy to be able to sleep in that extra bit. I slept tad late on Saturday night as I was trying to catch up on some blogs. I was reading Mayura’s blog, Diary of an Insane Writer where she wrote about “breaking up with Whatsapp”. It spoke to me in more ways than one. So yesterday morning as I rubbed my eyes awake and instantly reached out for my phone, I remembered Mayura’s lines on how she had stopped watching the sunrise, thanks to the Whatsapp dependence. Guilt reared its ugly head at me too, but to be blurred in no time  by a news far beyond my imagination. I was horrified to read about actress, Sridevi’s sudden demise due to cardiac arrest, on one of my Whatsapp groups. 


In my head, I was never a huge fan of hers. But then I was pretty much in awe of her acting prowess. As the day progressed I realised her movies had left a very deep impact somewhere within my being. Whether it was her feisty role in Mr. India, or her beguiling beauty that floored us in Lamhe, or the shrill voiced Chandini, singing the song Chandini- Chandini, bereft of any tune, yet enchanting us with her chiffon sarees, or the venom spitting serpent in Nagina, or more recently the mother-wife who rediscovers and reasserts herself in English Vinglish,  I had disliked that Bollywood phase of hers where she was doing movies with Jitender and Jaya Prada, flaunting her thunder thighs and was usually the one to wreck a home. My small town sensibilities were awkward around those storylines and gyrating moves. I also had watched these films with my parents on the VCR (video cassette recorder) at home. Yet, over a period; her grace, charm, her simple ability to stay away from lime light, her reticence and dignity is one that drew a lot of respect from me and I’m sure from many others too. 


Yesterday I felt a gaping void within. Sridevi’s untimely demise brought back memories of my mother’s loss, just three weeks back. My heart went out to Sridevi’s young daughters. It is a daunting, irreparable loss for the two young girls and one is still a teenager.


In the midst of all the grieving and mourning, I was appalled to see the number of messages circulating on social media, speculating on how cosmetic surgery and a hydroxy diet had killed her. Who are we to judge her for her personal choices. Like a dear friend and author wrote on Facebook;

“Appalled by the judgmental posts on Sridevi circulating in the social media. Sad how misogyny and victim blaming can follow a woman into her death. Guys, before you shoot your mouths off about her cosmetic surgery killing her consider that Dev Anand lived well into his eighties. Or if you think it was her desire to be slim how would you explain Reema Lagoo’s death of cardiac arrest, also in her fifties? Really, her life and death are worthy of your respect, her family of your sympathy. Stop sharing the useless pontification being forwarded on Whatsapp and posted on Facebook. Show a modicum of grace.”

Some even went on to crucify her in the name of karma; for having been responsible for breaking marriages. This toxic outburst especially at the time of her death, made my stomach churn. It’s so disheartening to see how democracy is being misused these days, in the guise of social media updates and posts. 

Death is an unannounced visitor. It can hit anyone, anytime. Irrespective of age, sex, and time. A top-notch business person who was a fitness and health freak, a marathon runner; suddenly died of cardiac arrest at the age of 47. He was not into fad diets or cosmetic surgeries. Who are we to blame in this case? Possibly the stress levels at work or lack of sleep, or who nows what? Or should we just make peace with the moment knowing that it was a life well-lived. And he came into the universe with the pre-decided life-span. Of course nothing in the world can take away the huge void and loss his kids and  wife are left with. But then don’t we all know we humans are mortal and have no control in the face of death. 


In Sridevi’s case she always kept a dignified aura, acted in about 300 films in her fifty-four year-long life span. She shone true to her movie avatar, Chandini (moonlight), in the film by the same name. She must have a accumulate good karma to have passed on so suddenly; no suffering, no long-standing illness, no history of heart illness; just a life nipped short. None of us really know the details of her personal life or her life’s journey. Most of the news doing the rounds are speculative information. So why make our own conjectures about her death. Even if she underwent cosmetic surgery, it was her personal choice. So who are we to comment. Yes, we can possibly take home a lesson about loving oneself for who we are and ageing gracefully.

We all come into this world with an expiry date, what really matters is a life well-lived. Click To Tweet

If one were to look at the larger picture, it was a life very well lived. A life that gave millions of her fans unlimited entertainment, in the form of multifaceted movies. And yes, can we forget those huge, evocative, enchanting eyes that spoke volumes and dazzled us with her beguiling charm?


We all come into this world with an expiry date, what really matters is a life well-lived. Do we stop by to smell the roses? Do we touch a few lives? Do we remember to thank the universe for a day that went by without any hitches? Do we let go of small misgivings and move on with love in our hearts? Do we spend quality time with the ones that matter the most? Do we appreciate someone for their small act of kindness? Do we thank our loved ones for being who they are? 

In the end that’s all that truly matters.

When I lost my Ma this month, my Uncle who came for the last rites, motivated my grieving father with this quote which Baba Amte, the famous social activist had once shared with him. 

Your last harvest, should be the best harvest. - Baba Amte, Social Activist Click To Tweet

These lines were meant to impart hope to my father whose life had lost its sheen and was grappling with the loss of his wife of fifty-eight years .

In my opinion, it’s important to work tenaciously, every single day towards maintaining a healthy, happy harvest in life; so as to reap the benefits of this harvest lifelong.



Linking up with the amazing Corinne

34 thoughts on “Can we let Sridevi RIP. Please, please!! #MondayMusings

  1. Hi Natasha! This is such a beautiful post. I was a fan of Sridevi from the beginning. Of course, she is no saint or God and just as human as any one of us are. Death is unpredicatable for some and expected for some. Either ways, it´s sad for those who are left behind with only memories to look back upon. That´s the end reality for all of us. It´s in utter bad taste the way people are accusing her of bad Karma, cosmetic surgery procedures as if they are saints. We don´t know her situation, her childhood days, her insecurities, her personal struggles and who are we to judge a dead person when they cannot defend themselves at all? Loved your sensitive tone. It is a sad time for the family…mother is the central figure of any home. My condolences again to you and your family are a copy of your mother.. 🙂 Thanks for this beautiful post again! 🙂

    1. Thank you so much Tina for reading and appreciating.
      Thank you for your kind words re: Ma. I’m glad I’m carrying her legacy forward. ❤️

  2. It was shocking to wake up to the news of Sridevi’s death. And it was truly disgusting and saddening to see people stoop to lowest of lows with their ‘speculations and analysis’ of her death and life.
    The news media and social media made her death a mockery and a circus. Though have received a lot of flak for their insensitive coverage of her death, hope they learn something from this.And hope Sridevi rests in peace too.

    1. Yes honestly Shilpa I do hope the media takes home some lessons from this entire episode of non-sensitive behaviour.
      Thank you for reading.

  3. You have penned this piece on Sridevi who gave us unlimited happiness in a sensitive manner. The Karma post made me cringe and shows a lack of respect for someone who has given cinema so much. It was disrespectful and sick. It made me so angry seeing what we are turning into.She doesn’t deserve such hatred and perhaps haters should look within. She lives forever.

    1. True Vishal, I was appalled to see that Karma post at such a sensitive point of time. It’s unfortunate what level people will stoop to grab headlines.
      Yes she lives on forever albeit what people have to say. She will be our Chandini always. Moonlight indeed.

  4. That’s such a wonderful, meaningful post, Natasha!

    Living life to the fullest, being grateful to every single thing we have been blessed with and to let go of grudges and bitterness. And, accepting that one day we all have to leave this world, so might as well live as well as we can, with goodness in our heart and a smile on our lips!
    I too hope that the media leaves aside their childishness, and stops feeding dirt to the people. And, instead, mourns the loss of a great artist who gave us countless beautiful memories through her acting.

    1. Thank you Shilpa.
      Yes I just read this quote by Paulo Coelho: Our time on earth is Sacred and we should celebrate every moment.

      So to make this world a better place we need to let go of our misgivings and judgements and learn to love, live and let live.

  5. I was thoroughly disgusted with how people were reacting. Was this the time to pull down a dead person? Or did they feel superior for just a moment because she was so accomplished. Just completely fed up and sickened. I logged out when the crappy posts started showing up. Can’t believe how terrible people can be.

    I really hope they can now leave the family alone and allow them to grieve.

    1. Yes even I logged out of the posts and media when I saw them circulating endlessly. Just paid homage to her by writing this post and celebrating such an talented human being.

      Yes the family deserves space and respect to grieve without any more jabs and conjectures.

  6. Although I am a huge fan of Sridevi, I never kept up with her personal life. It is something I do with my favorite actors.I don’t want my love of their onscreen persona broken by their off screen life. So I was pretty shocked when I read about Sridevi’s struggle in personal life. It breaks my heart to even think about how much she went through. And, frankly I am glad that she will not have to endure that any more. As for the media and commentors, isn’t women blaming their second character! I actually haven’t read any comment… Or any news article except for blogs like yours. I don’t think I will be able to deal with vile mentality.
    Don’t let that effect you too. Let’s remember her as the vibrant personality of hawa hawai

    1. Yes totally Raj. In fact I refuse to read any derogatory posts about her. I grew up watching her films and I hold her on high esteem. In my view she was not just an actor par excellence but a wonderful wife and mother too.

      She shines from the skies above in her Chandni avatar now.

  7. What a wonderful post that was Natasha. I’m sure the Kapoor family will thank you for your voice of reason . Why can’t we let things be as they are ? Why must there always be a reason for things to happen ? Yes we all come with an expiry date and it is just as well we don’t know it so that we can enjoy the pleasures of each day.

    1. True why can’t we just let people be. I guess celebrities come with the bane of being in limelight and their personal lives are bared out to the public to thrive and draw thrills out of.
      Unfortunate reality.
      And the fact that social media has spearheaded all of this to another shameless level.
      Thank you for always reading Sunita.

  8. So true Natasha. I am not watching news because of the crazy speculations where some of them are really going overboard as if it is some television serial. Sridevi deserves respect. Her children and husband need their space to mourn.

  9. I so agree with you, Natasha. I haven’t been watching the news, but I hear the speculation as my colleagues discuss the news and the speculation being put forth. Her death was shocking and tragic, and I think she and her family deserve some privacy and dignity in this time of mourning, not this abysmal media coverage and rumour mongering that is doing the rounds.

  10. The way the media is making a circus out of this breaks my heart. Two children are at stake here and just imagine what they would be going through reading crap about their mother. What ever happened to empathy, humanity?

    I pray that her family gets the strength to sail through this and eventually get over this.

  11. Your entire life would be your message to the world. The message that you’d leave behind. Let us remember the inspiring characters that she has played and her vast body of work instead of speculations around her death.
    Media should concentrate on reliving those moments of the superstar from her yesteryears instead of showing the rubbish trash that it is showing.

    I watched Sadma yesterday. Miss the actor whose works had been a great part of my childhood. Hawa Hawai had been my fancy dress function favorite. Mr.India, Chandni, Chalbaaz have been a part and parcel of family TV time in the 90s. Loved Judai. Loved English Vinglish. Loved Mom.

  12. Apparently, she didn’t die of cardiac arrest and now her ‘death drama’ is taking a whole new turn..incidentally she lived very near to my house and since last 3 days we are under house arrest because the entire area is crowded by media people choking traffic, causing chaos..i am literally praying for her body to come back so that we can leave a sigh of relief.

  13. Its sad. Having lost a diva, and then the way the media seems to be handling the whole thing. theres a lack of empathy and compassion in this world. It just seems to be a game of numbers and popularity on Social media.

    1. True. It’s all about garnering eyeballs and having a field day with cheap publicity stunts. Unfortunately a major population thrives on this fodder of nonsense. Thank you for reading Ramya.

  14. Natz you have stolen words from my mouth and heart …I have been morning for two days at such an untimely Denise but also appalled at the way people make it their business to react and judge .I have grown up dancing on Chandni numbers there Hathon mei .’, nagina dan e Mai Teri dushman and Lamhe song baagan mei mor nachey…for me she was my school and college time memory …the most graceful diva …I mourn her loss and can only wish for her soul to be in peace ……Her death has once again jolted me to realise the transiency of life and I think it will somewhere make us love and appreciate people around in our life’s coz we never know for how long are we here …../

    1. Thank you dear Anjali, for reading and taking time to comment. Appreciate it much. Yes, we’ve lost a legendary actress par excellence.

  15. What a thought-provoking post! and I agreed with each emotion you had expressed! it is so sad that our society always had a sort of negative pre-conceived notion for everything., in fact they had nor escaped death, this time. hats off to you concluding all things so wonderfully. I had goose-bumps while reading it.

  16. Natz, very well expressed! I certainly agree that who are we to talk, judge or interpret at a time when we have lost the best actress or the pretty lady who went on to show her acting potential to the fullest. It’s indeed a huge loss that cannot be replaced. I never knew I was Sridevi’s fan until I heard the news of her sudden demise. As you have rightly said, let her rest in eternal peace atleast now. Praying for her soul to rest in eternal peace while praying for her family , especially the daughters.

  17. I agree natz, I completely loved this woman and have high respect for the amount of hard work she had put in those movies. What she has acheived in this lifetime many of us can’t even dream about it.. success doesn’t come easy there is a lot that goes into it.. it takes courage,patience, hard work n perseverance to be a star like her. I salute this woman for what she was.. I agree it’s a very big loss for the family for her young daughters.. it’s reduculous how people can even come with such comments right after her death..

  18. Superb di… u wrote what was in my heart too… she was in a way my dance Guru too… i learned dancing from her movies and songs… her face expressions says millions things without uttering a word… I still remember my favorite song “Na jaane kahan se aayi hai” from the movie Chaalbaaz… Yesterday was not a good day and we all will move on with our lives but my heart goes out for those girls who lost their mom… it is a pain I will never want anyone to go through even in their dreams…. you and me both sailing in the same boat and now its time to help others so that they should not fall into the pit of grieve and depression

  19. This is the reality of the world we live in, Nats. Lack of empathy, oneupmanship, no compassion and figuring out how to score the most clicks in an online world. The last two days alone have turned me off social media like nothing else can.

    Appalled by the behaviour of people who use tools given for a purpose to magnify their own unverified ‘facts.’

    I pray that her family has the strength to see them through this phase. It’s the least that they deserve.

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